Is Love Really Blind?

You have heard people claim that when it comes to romance, love is blind. What exactly does it mean? It is really true?

You must be very unique but unlucky if you have never experienced confusion, butterflies in the stomach and all sorts of mixed feelings on seeing a certain member of the opposite sex. Notice I said ‘seeing’ because that is all I takes. The situation gets even more confusing when you come close to that person.

You may find yourself mumbling incorrigible statements. I know of guys who forget their names when they meet their crush! Some women even end up drawing funny patterns on the ground with their equally-confused feet. I need not mention the sweat that come from both the visible and the hidden part of the body!

At that moment, you can promise to hunt down a lion just to prove how much you love this person you know so little about. It reminds me of a young man who wrote a romantic note to his girlfriend. He told the girl how eager he was to meet her later that night.

To show just how much he adored the damsel, he dedicated a song in the letter. “I Will Cross the Ocean For You“. That was the title of the song. At the bottom of the letter, though, he wrote a disclaimer. “I will not come if it rains,”

How was the girl to interpret the message? If you will cross the ocean for me, how can you not brave mere rain to come and met me? That is how romantic love befuddles people. I guess that is why love is said to be blind.

There are other ways in which love is blind. Take for example the issue of red signs. These are indicators that the other person does not love you and may actually in another relationship. For example, if you cannot reach your lover by phone at night, repeatedly, what should that tell you?

Similarly, if your lover has a lifestyle beyond his or her income level and you ignore that fact, believing all is well, you are blind. If the person you love keeps secrets from you about his or her background and does not want you to meet her friends or family, are you not blind if you consider that normal behaviour?

Suppose your lover is a cruel person who inflicts physical, emotional and verbal pain on you, will you be normal if you persist in that relationship of even pursue it into marriage? Why would you believe that that person will somehow change and become a saint if you continue staying with him or her?

While some relationship that begin on a platonic note mature into marriage, many couples do not proceed beyond the initial steps once the ‘blind’ love dies down. They realize they were carried away by he moment, that the other person is not the perfect match they thought he or she was.

In other words, do not be carried away by the initial blinding feelings associated with crushing on a person of the opposite sex. We are usually attracted by what we see at the moment, yet people are usually at their best behaviour and dressing when they are in public.

Closer interaction in subsequent days reveals flows in the other person that you may not want to put up with. You begin to regret your decision. One partner of both may channel they anger on the other person, resulting in physical or verbal abuse.